I know, I have pretty much disappeared lately. My YouTube videos have continued like clockwork, but I haven’t been writing here or sharing all that much on social media either. So let’s catch up! Get yourself some coffee or wine and settle in for a bit of a read, a lot has happened and I want to take you on the journey with me!
Back in December, when I said that I wanted to start meditating as one of my goals for the year, I had actually already started. So I guess that means that I’m already two months into my new meditation practice, and seriously loving it. But I know it sounds super New Age-y, and probably a bit odd for people who know me. I’m a geek, a techie. Sure, I buy the super expensive free-range, cage-free eggs and have a few other “crunchy” tendencies, but mostly I’m a modern, sarcastic, pragmatic kinda woman. So what am I doing meditating, and what am I getting out of it?
Well, it’s precisely because I’m so modern, sarcastic, and pragmatic that meditation is ideal. The reality is that I often feel like I’m thinking about a bajillion things at once. If I’m not thinking about work, I’m thinking about this blog or my YouTube channel. If I’m not thinking about my kid or my husband, I’m thinking about my mom, my friends. I’m planning dinners and figuring out when I’ll slot in a gym visit. I’m thinking through a grocery shopping list and trying to organize a meet up with some local working moms. Life is busy, and I’ve often lamented not even having a chance to breathe. But meditation has helped me get exactly that.
Some of you may have noticed that I’ve added a “Work with me” section on this site. No, this isn’t for brands looking to throw money at me to write random posts (although I’m happy for you to reach out to me if you are a brand and think we’d work well together). Rather, this is a section of the site devoted to my coaching business. Coaching business? Who do you think you are, coaching people – I hear you say. Well, let me explain why I work as a coach, what I offer, and why I think it’s worthwhile.
In many ways, I’m living my ideal life. I can pay the bills with working on average 4-5 hours per day, freeing up the rest of my time to hit the gym, relax with my husband, play with my kid or consume amazing series or video games. But the reality is that the writing I do in those 4-5 hours a day is pretty mind-numbing. Not all the time, but much of the time. Most of all, it’s pretty unfulfilling work writing such SEO optimized content. I’m lucky to be able to write for a living, which was my dream, but I also need other outlets for my soul, which is why I blog, make YouTube videos, and now, coach.
In 2018, I didn’t make any set goals. We had just turned our lives upside down, moving halfway around the world. Everything was different and new, and rather than making some ambitious plans to change my life even further, my main, unsaid goal was pretty much to just settle into our new lives. I wanted to make friends, to grow in my career, and to make this place a home. That seemed daunting enough, and yet I accomplished this unspoken goal, just as I achieved my 2017 goals the year before. Seeing as one of the things I offer as a coach is help with goals, I figured I should probably show you how I apply this to my own life, by sharing my own 2019 goals.
But it’s not enough to just have dreams or ideas. They have to be translated into action steps, as well as daily, weekly and monthly activities. The goals need to be clear and easily quantified, and then the steps need to be actionable, or else it all becomes too overwhelming, vague and impossible. So this is how I hope to change my life in 2019.
Some of you might not know this about me, but I’ve struggled with psoriasis for pretty much my whole life. It was a big part of my body and self-image issues as a teenager, and can still be really frustrating. But I’ve learned a lot from leading dermatologists and other doctors’ advice, plus from just living with this for years and figuring out what works.
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